During a divorce, your online and offline actions can significantly impact the outcome of your case. What you post on social media might seem harmless “in the moment” but could be used as evidence against you in court.
Your digital behavior can affect custody decisions and financial settlements and set the tone for your post-divorce co-parenting relationship. Understanding that judges, attorneys and your ex-spouse can monitor your online presence is crucial during this time.
How others can use online activity against you
Sharing personal thoughts and daily activities on social media has become second nature for many of us. However, this habit can lead to serious pitfalls during a divorce. What you consider a harmless vent or casual update might become Exhibit A in your divorce case.
Examples of potentially problematic posts include:
- Posting negative comments about your ex-spouse
- Checking in at bars or parties when you’re supposed to be working or caring for children
- Sharing photos that contradict financial claims you’ve made in court
- Discussing details of your divorce case or legal strategy online
- Revealing new relationships that might complicate custody arrangements
- Documenting expensive purchases while claiming financial hardship
Even if you delete posts or take other precautions, screenshots and shared connections mean your posts are never truly private during a divorce.
Tips for safe posting
The safest approach during divorce proceedings is to take a complete break from social media. However, if that’s not realistic, the following guidelines can help protect you:
- Review and adjust privacy settings on all platforms
- Remove mutual friends who might share your content with your ex
- Avoid location tagging or check-ins that reveal your whereabouts
- Think twice before posting anything about finances, dating or parenting
- Don’t use social media when emotionally upset or after drinking
- Ask friends not to tag you in photos or posts
- Consider having a trusted friend review posts before publishing them
- Never discuss your legal case or court proceedings online
Remember that the other side can use anything you share against you in court.
Turn to a trusted guide to protect your interests
Skilled family law attorney Kelly A. Damm has spent two decades helping clients work through all the complexities of divorce while protecting their long-term interests. Contact her to schedule a consultation to discuss your specific situation and develop a strategy that safeguards your future by calling 607-277-8601 or reaching out through the firm’s online form.